Things I Learned From My Mother 

– That forget means that you don’t care.  I never understood this when I was younger, but being a bit older now, I realize that remembering things and being there for someone and showing up, shows them that you care.  It’s showing that you care enough to make them a priority in your thoughts, actions, and time.
– That you should never show up to someones home empty handed.
– That it’s okay to let the ones closest to you see you cry or be hurt.  Even though it takes a lot to make me cry and my mom calls me “Hard Hearted Hannah.”
– How to be a good hostess.  My mom is definitely the hostess with the mostest.
– That you can never be overdressed.  She has always said that it’s better to be overdress than under dressed.
– To buy clothes/accessories that are timeless and classic.  Trendy stuff is cute now, and you can buy those cheap.  But you can never go wrong with investing in classy pieces that will never go out of style.
– That when you’re shopping, if you don’t LOVE something in the store, you won’t love it when we get home.  Only buy something if you absolutely can’t live without it.  If you can, it’s not worth buying.
– How to put your family before yourself. (Most of the time.)
– How to be a good wife, but to never let a man walk all over you.  That you should be in a partnership and friendship with your husband, not a servant.
– How to balance having a full time job and being a full time mother.  And how to kick ass doing it, might I add.  My mom showed me that you don’t have to be a stay at home mom to be fully present with your kids.  Even though my mom always worked full time, as does my father, she was always there to drive us to school and was at all of our events and home every night for dinner.  My parents did an amazing job of balancing both things.  My dad goes to work super early in the morning so that he was off in time to pick up my brother and I up from school and be there with us at home every afternoon.  They really were the ideal balance of being there for us so that we weren’t always in daycare.  They’ve shown me so much as to how I want to raise my own kids.
– How to do home-improvement/DIY.  Yes, my dad has also taught me a ton of stuff about this too, but my mom showed me that she could do it just as good, and sometimes better (sorry Dad).  She didn’t need to wait for him to help her get stuff done.  She would just take matters into her own hands and I love that.  I’d come home sometimes to her ripping out walls or re-tiling something.  It’s kind of crazy when you think about it but my parents always did that kind of stuff themselves.  I love knowing that I don’t always have to hire someone to help me with that stuff.  And that I don’t need to depend on a man either.
– How to be strong.  I won’t get into the details, but as a mother and a woman, my mom has been through a lot that most women haven’t.  She has taught me how to hold it together and be strong for those around you, even when you feel like crumbling.  I’ve witnessed my mom go through some rough situations and because of her strength and composure, I’ve learned to handle situations differently and be able to be the calm in the storm (most of the time).  While I’m still mastering this, as is my mom (yes, she does lose it from time to time. She’s human) I have a much better grasp on it as I’ve gotten older because of her.
– That god deals you the cards you were meant to have.  That he puts you into situations because he knows you’ll be able to handle it.  Yes, some of us are dealt a difficult hand, but maybe it’s because he knows that others wouldn’t be able to handle it and come out on the other side.  My mom has instilled in me that everything happens for a reason and what is meant to be, will be.  I firmly believe in this.
– That being positive can affect everything around you.  What you put out in this universe, is what you’ll get back.
– That a pair of black pointed toe pumps need to be in your closet.  I’m still on the hunt for the perfect pair.
– To dress for the job you want, not the one you have.
– To not live above your means.
– That sometimes, to save face, you need to grin and bear it.
– That there will always be people in this world you don’t do their job or don’t put in the work and they’ll get away with it.  But that I should not be one of those people.  Those skimmers don’t get far in life and you need to work your ass off and hustle every day in order to have the things you want in life.  Because NO ONE is going to hand them to you.
– How to be a good baker.
– That “thank you” cards are always a must.
– How to do winged eyeliner.
– How to swear like a truck driver. 🙂 Sorry but it’s true.
– How to be a good person.  I’m still always working on that one but through her example, I’m getting there.
There are so many other things that I learn from my momma every day but if I continued we’d be here all day. Love you mommy!
Xoxo Lex

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