23 Lesson I’ve Learned in 23 Years


This post is going up on my 23rd birthday!  Happy birthday to me 🙂
So, I thought I’d compile a list of a few things I’ve learned in my short time here on this earth.  Hope you enjoy it!
  1. You can’t love someone else, and I mean REALLY truly and fully, love someone else, until you love yourself.
  2. Don’t settle for anything.  You deserve the best and don’t let anyone tell you any different.
  3. Go after what you want.  No matter what it is, even if it scares the hell out of you.  Especially if it scares the hell out of you.
  4. In order to have a good relationship (friendship, family, love) you must communicate.  Don’t be afraid of telling someone how you feel or what’s bothering you.  If you can be mature enough to have a physical relationship with someone, you should be mature enough to be able to talk to them about everything and anything.
  5. Be present in your moments.  Don’t take a single one for granted.
  6. Everything happens for a reason and things happen when they’re meant to.  If you try to force it, it won’t be right.
  7. Peep toe shoes are by far the most uncomfortable heels.  My toes feel like a stuffed sausage up in there.
  8. That your first love, will not be your only love.  Not even close.
  9. That you will get your heart-broken, over and over again.  When you put up walls and give up on love, you’re only closing yourself off from some of the most amazing things in life.  If you stop walking, you could miss out on what’s waiting around the corner.
  10. That gentlemen do exist and chivalry is not dead.  Brandon and I have been together for over four years and he still, to this day, opens the car door for me when I get in.  Maybe not every single time, but for the most part.  One of the first things that impressed me about him was how much of a gentleman he was and that quality has never wavered.  Ladies, there are good guys out there who will treat you like the princess you are.  Sometime, well most of the time, it just takes kissing a few frogs before you find the right one.
  11. Listen to your mother.  Even when you really, really don’t want to.
  12. Every person in your life serves a purpose: in timing, in qualities, in lessons learned.  People come in and out of your life at certain times for a reason.  You may not realize it at the time, but you learned something from each one.
  13. Qualifying as a best friend does not mean that you have to talk to someone every day, see them every day or be exactly the same.  A best friend is someone who balances you in their qualities, someone who you can not see for a few months and then you’re right back where you left off, who you can talk to for hours or sit and watch TV in silence and be completely comfortable.  Over the years I have learned to appreciate and cherish the good friends in my life that I do have.  Friends have come and gone but now, being 23, I can say that I have a core group that I am in love with and who I know I can always count on.  And being adults now, we don’t get to see each other as often as we like.  But that doesn’t make them any less of a best friend to me.  It means that even in the chaos of our lives, I appreciate the most that they take time out and spend it with me.  That’s friendship.
  14. Don’t be afraid to approach that cute guy across the room.  Hell, if I hadn’t made the first move with Brandon, who knows if we would have ever met.  I am more old-fashioned about making him work for it after that initial meeting, but if you want something or have an interest in someone, go for it.  Chances are, it’ll pay off big time.
  15. Don’t shave your arms!  If you have hair in an unwanted place (minus the exception of legs, armpits, bikini area) wax it.  I do think waxing it all is the best way to go but shaving is more forgiving on those few places I mentioned above.  Do you want a stubbly arm?  No!  Also, when you shave, most of the time it grows back darker and thicker.  This might seem like a bit of an odd lesson, but it’s one I have witnessed in many girls and have learned to not do.  If your body hair is blonde, feel blessed and leave it alone.  Over time it becomes thinner and no one can even see it besides you.  If it’s darker than desired, wax that s*%t off and call it a day.
  16. To my blondes: If you’re on the hunt for a great dry shampoo, look no further, baby powder is your friend and the only thing that I have found that works when I haven’t washed my hair for more days than I’m proud to mention.  This can work in small doses for other hair colors, but it could cause a gray root area and we don’t want that.
  17. Take your multi-vitamin every day.  (Thanks, mom)
  18. Don’t sleep in your makeup.  Yes, I am guilty of this, but I always regret it.  Sleeping in your makeup clogs your pores and causes irritation and breakouts.  Don’t do it.
  19. Don’t compromise your values and morals for someone else.
  20. Never stop flirting with your man.
  21. Drink A LOT of water.  Even when you think you’ve drank enough, drink more.
  22. (This is from Brandon) I can be a bit of a planner, not as bad as my mother, not even close, but I’m more of a planner than Brandon and he’s taught me to slow down a bit.  Yes, certain things need planning, but if you plan out everything in your life, you’re not really living.  You’re just executing a plan.  There’s nothing fun, sexy or spontaneous about that.  I’ve learned to let things happen more and just live life without fear that it won’t go how I want it to.  Everything will happen how it’s supposed to and if you’re stuck planning it all, you’ll miss out on the adventure.
  23. The final lesson that I’ve learned in my short 23 years of life, is to love.  Love yourself.  Love your family.  Love your significant other.  And if you don’t have one, love the time in your life when you’re single.  Love your life.  Love just being alive in this life that is completely yours.  Yours to make whatever you want of it.  And if any of those aspects you aren’t in love with, don’t accept that.  Know that you can change anything you want and have control over it.  No one else can control your life but you.  Live a life that you love, and love every aspect of it.
    xoxo, Lex


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